In 1970, musician Steven Sills wrote a song called "Love the One You're With." It was inspired by the saying "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with." I think there is a lesson in that for all of us who are working toward stronger, healthier selves.
It can be hard to love ourselves, especially if the self we see in the mirror or we hear in our heads is not the self we ultimately want to become. But loving ourselves right where we are is so important. When we love someone, we want to do things for them, we want to spend time with them. Embracing self-love drives us to do better for ourselves -- to add a few extra minutes to a workout, to spend some more time in prayer, to make a healthy choice over an indulgent one.
This idea is catching on in popular culture as well. Dove has launched a #ChooseBeautiful campaign, encouraging women to define themselves as beautiful, not to settle for average. Plus-size retailer Lane Bryant sends the message that sexiness isn't dependent on size. Check out this recent article on Shape.com that tells more about these two campaigns.
Then think about what you can do to love yourself today. What do you need to say to yourself? Maybe put that message on your mirror. What do you need to do for yourself? Take at least one step today toward making that happen. And if you lose your way, just remember to love the one you're with.
Married to a college football coach, 3 daughters, Beachbody Master Trainer and Coach, Disney fanatic, aspire to inspire, serve others, and be a force of passion. Meet Julie!