As you might know, I’m deep into the 80 Day Obsession workout program, and one of the coolest pieces about this program - aside from the fact that I feel like I have a personal trainer in my basement every.single.day. - is that Autumn Calabrese strongly emphasizes self-care.
What does that mean? Really, nothing complicated...Autumn truly means taking CARE of one’s SELF. How that looks and feels in each person’s life may be different...what feels relaxing and rejuvenating to one person may be stressful to another. For example, I KNOW massage is so so so good for me...but I often find myself thinking about all the other stuff I could be doing during that massage instead of getting the benefits from it. SO….I have some other tools of self-care that work for me and perhaps they will work for you too!
Bottom line -- take care of YOU. That’s just the foundation of good health in all ways.
Sundays are the perfect mornings to catch up on sleep. Let’s be honest, very few of us get enough sleep - enough GOOD sleep especially. The constant buzz of electronics in our face, the constant to-do list...it can be challenging to turn it all OFF and just GO. TO. BED!! Sleep is imperative for recovery and crucial for brain function!! For me, Sundays are the perfect no-alarm mornings. Sundays sort of start the new week, in a way, and to start a new week with extra sleep is amazing.
Have you read Mel Robbins’ book, The 5 Second Rule? If not, I highly encourage you to get it, either hard cover or audible. In it, Mel talks a LOT about the science of sleep and as much as I knew intuitively that sleep should be a priority, hearing the SCIENCE behind it really changed the game for me. Get that book and read it, you’ll get so much out of it, especially about sleep.
2. Planning for week ahead
I’m a pencil to paper girl when it comes to planning and lists. The more I write it down, the more organized I feel, the more I remember it, the more the task gets done.
First I go over the girls’ activities and my husband’s schedule, making sure everything is written on our family calendar that is posted on the refrigerator.
Then I go through my business calendar, filtering my events / trainings / travel through the family calendar. The family calendar comes first and everything else happens around that.
Next, I go through the week ahead and create a hand-written list of tasks, errands, and business items that need to be accomplished. Creating sort of a “master list” that lives on my desk makes me feel more centered.
I also put mantras and guiding thoughts at the top of that “master list” to keep me focused on the important stuff.
We can make lists all day long, but if we don’t take ACTION, those lists don’t matter. So I often remind myself that the list is great...but the ACTION behind it is what counts. Feeling centered and organized is a crucial piece of the self-care puzzle for me.
3. Family time
I build my business to create experiences and opportunities for my family. And I LOVE what I do. Unfortunately that sometimes means I don’t STOP doing what I love and remember to focus on WHO I love. So for me, both structured and unstructured family time is SO important in self-care. I want time that’s just us hanging out on the couch watching Olympics and playing cards, and I want time where we all go to dinner and a movie. Parents of teenagers, you feel me...it’s TOUGH to get on your teen’s schedule! They are BUSY. But we’re all busy, and we’re all WAY too connected to our phones and computers and every other piece of electronic. No matter if I’m creating a life for family or not, for me, part of my self care is time with my family...the reason WHY I want to work so hard, the motivation behind my passion for what I love.
I guarantee you...my girls may not remember WHAT we did together...but they will remember the TIME we spent together. I’ve also learned that our kids don’t want nearly as much time with us as they, or parenting books or well-meaning grandparents, might guilt us into thinking. They want SOME time, that is focused and they want us PRESENT and ENGAGED. Nobody needs ALL our time ALL the time. So I don’t worry too much about the whole work / life balance thing. There’s no such thing anyway. As long as I get intentional time with my other JV’s, it’s all good and my bucket gets filled.
Weekends are an amazing time for extra pampering. That hair masque that needs to sit for 20 minutes - who has that on a Wednesday? Maybe a much-needed pedicure or even just a blow out at the salon. Here are some of my favorites:
5. Optional: Movement
Yes, rest days are BEST. We need them, our bodies need them. But when it is a beautiful day, for sure I’m taking a walk or bike ride or doing yoga outside!! And during the winter, instead of a complete rest day, I might do yoga in the basement...because frankly, SOME movement - low impact!! - often makes my body feel better than NO movement. We HAVE to listen to our bodies, and not some number on a scale...if our bodies are sore and achy, then REST. If you’re feeling restless or stressed or it’s a gorgeous day, go for a walk instead of complete rest. Pay attention to how you feel DURING and AFTER the movement. Does it make you feel refreshed and recalibrated? Or exhausted and most stressed?? That’s your key to rest and resetting for the week ahead.
Remember...Self care helps us make progress as it prevents “overload burnout”: We've all been there...we push ourselves to the point that we can't take anymore so we just give up. Self care helps us avoid getting to that point!! Take care of YOU!
Married to a college football coach, 3 daughters, Beachbody Master Trainer and Coach, Disney fanatic, aspire to inspire, serve others, and be a force of passion. Meet Julie!